Harmony in Marriage

Written by Carl & Yolanda Bennett
singing_coupleIf God were to describe your marriage using some type of musical composition, what would it be? A dramatic opera? How about a symphony? No? Well, let's try a folk tune. Or maybe your marriage is best characterized by ear splitting argument or even a sad song. Is your marriage music to God's ears or could it use a little tuning up? Today we are going to talk about the relationship between discipleship and marriage and how if you marry these two concepts, it might just create a little bit of harmony. This is a challenge to spiritual maturity, so get ready for some serious discussion.

In the book of (1 Pet. 3:8-9) Peter says "Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing" now this is something that Peter is telling the other disciples and that these were the key things in order to get the people to understand the love of Christ.

When we live in harmony with one another as fellow Christians or husband and wife, it is being on one accord, now the way we would describe that kind of harmony, is singing the same song, but singing only your part. When you try to sing a note that you cannot reach or sing someone else's part you are not in harmony.

What about being sympathetic to one another? We can define that as being understanding, considerate, compassionate, kind, caring and sensitive to each other's wants, desires and needs. Here's our question to you: Are you sympathetic to others? Or do you just want others to be sympathetic to you? The next part of that verse is to love as brothers. There are several examples of brotherly love but we will only use one and that is the love that Joseph showed his brothers after they had thrown him in a pit and sold him into slavery but in the end after all he went through he showed them the love of forgiveness. Can we say we show that same love in our marriages?

Compassionate and humble, now we already touch on compassion, so now we will talk about humble. Humble is best described as modest, lowly, poor, meek and the best one is unassuming. The reason I like unassuming is because a humble person will not take others for granted. Are you humble? In (1Peter 5:5) Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility towards one another because, "God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble."

Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. In others words tit for tat that is not the way we are to live in harmony with each other, the Word of God says in (Colossians 3:18-19) it states You wives must submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord and you husbands must love your wives and never treat them harshly.  This is how we are to live in harmony with our spouses and for our Christian and worldly brothers and sisters "with love and kindness have I drawn thee" "love thy neighbor as thyself" and "turn the other cheek" so if we really live by the Word of God, none of us will have a problem with evil or insult. We will be a blessing to each other so that we may inherit the blessings God have for us. These are very practical, very down-to-earth requirements and the Lord is holding us responsible for them, so let's continue or learn how to live in harmony with our spouses.