Wedding Vows Are More Than Just Words

Written by Carl & Yolanda Bennett
weddinghands_500Weddings are beautiful ceremonies that take place for the purpose of family and friends to enjoy one of the most important events of your life. If you think back everything before that day was great. Both of you know the right things to say to one another and the right way to look at one another. Now you are looking at each at the alter, not only are family and friends listening but God's ears are wide open also listening to the agreement you are making in front of Him and all those people you wanted in attendance for this great day. Now that you are joined in Holy Matrimony do you really know what that means and what has taken place?

Let me so show you the way to define Holy Matrimony, holy: exalted or worthy of complete devotion as one perfect in goodness and righteousness. Matrimony: the union of man and woman as husband and wife. Join that together and you can say that is spiritual. You have just made a vow in which you must keep. I want to define vow for you now vow: a solemn promise or assertion; specifically: one by which a person is bound to an act, service, or condition, to promise solemnly. This is something that is very important to keep so please don't take these words lightly.

Some couples write their own vows instead of the traditional vows because it may be something in the traditional vows they don't agree with, but the majority have made the traditional vows so that is what I will deal with now. The vows I will deal with are the vow the man makes then I will cover the woman.

Marriage vows to the man:

Do you _______ take this woman to be your wedded wife? Do you earnestly promise, before God and these witnesses, that you will love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health; and that, forsaking all others for her alone, you will perform unto her all the respect that a husband owes his wife, until God, by death, shall separate you.

I must give you some scripture for these words spoken so beautifully on your wedding day, Ephesians 5:25; And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her. This is the way to love your wife husband, when a man does this he is actually showing love for himself and make no mistake about it this is the first thing you agreed to. These vows can be considered as a service; Christ served; while he walked this earth so he is requiring the same from the husband, comfort her; make her well-being of primary importance; He should be willing to sacrifice everything for her. This is what real men do.

Now that we have covered the husband let's cover the vows of the wife. These vows have a slight difference, but they are still vows that need to be kept nevertheless.

Marriage vows for the woman:
Do you _______ take this man to be your wedded husband? Do you earnestly promise, before God and these witnesses, that you will love him, comfort him, honor and obey him, in sickness and in health; and that, forsaking all others for him alone, you will perform unto him all the respect that a wife  owes her husband , until God, by death, shall separate you.

The change in the vows is one word that is very important, that word is obey. I will define this word for you also, obey: to conform to or comply with, to behave obediently. The bible speaks of the wife respecting her husband. The husband is the head of the home and in the spiritual; the husband should be the spiritual guide. In order for the husband to accomplish this wife must be supportive of her husband, and should follow the guidance the husband is giving because that is his role in the marriage, not that the woman has no input, it is the husband's responsibility to guide his wife in the proper direction.

There are some more that are repeated to one another to seal the marriage agreement.

I, ______ take thee _______ to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and to love and cherish till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto, I pledge thee my faith.

Now these words mean that when there is something that you agree or disagree on you stay together, it means whether you have more or less money you stay together, this means that when one of you have back or been diagnosis with cancer you stay together, it means that when your husband or wife upset you stay together, it mean that you have agreed to stay together till death do you part. If death come next month or 25 years from now you would fulfilled your promise not to just each other but to God. If you are married or not married consider these vows, because once they are made you must be in it to win it.