Articles about your Spouse
/carl and Yolanda Bennet answer your marriage questions"You can encourage your husband to spend time with his children by reminding him that they need him more than they need the things he can buy them. When a man spends a lot of time away from his children, he may begin to feel disconnected from them and believe he doesn’t have anything in common with them. Children look up to their fathers as role models, and mentors. They desperately want to believe that someone has their best interests at heart and no matter what else happens around them, they will always have a safe relationship and that they can depend on their family. When your husband feels valued and needed, he will be more likely to invest his time with you and your children."
/carl and Yolanda Bennet answer your marriage questions"Your husband's mother played an important role in his life, nurturing him and teaching him how to become an independent person in his own right.  You have to explain to him that even though you may do some of the same things his mother did, you do them for a different reason.  You do them because you and your husband are a team, each with a part to play.

Discuss together your expectations regarding participation and encourage him to participate in the operations of your household through the sharing of chores and responsibilities and then attempt to assign responsibilities accordingly.

I do not believe your husband married you because he needed someone to look after him or to cook and clean for him. Treat him as your best friend, your lover, and your hero and he will be quick to respond by treating you like the diva you are."
/carl and Yolanda Bennet answer your marriage questions"For your husband, the need for sex is as much physical as it is emotional. His need to connect physically with you is one expression of his desire to connect emotional. Your husband sees your willingness to join physically with him as a demonstration of your love, vulnerability, and trust for him; he views the sex act in a loving relationship as the highest compliment he could give to the woman he loves. While love is important, sex is also integral to your marriage relationship. Choosing to meet your husband’s physical needs is a demonstration of love that he can understand.

On the other hand, for women the relationship is important and your sex drive is based more on the emotional than the physical. This is why you probably find it difficult to be enthusiastic about sex after you and your husband have had a disagreement. For you, the emotional connection releases the sex hormones and fluids needed for stimulation and satisfaction. "

/carl and Yolanda Bennet answer your marriage questions"Your husband associated respect with the core of his being; it defines who he is to others.  For your husband, a lack of respect is not simply a difference in opinion, it encompasses everything he thinks and does.  Your husband needs to know you respect him just as you require knowing he loves you. While your husband may appear to be the strong, silent type, inside he earnestly seeks validation from the people who matter to him. Your respect affirms his worthiness and builds his courage.  Without it, he may experience self-doubt, which will possibly manifest itself in all areas of his life. "
When our expectations concerning our husband's love hit a brick wall, who will we turn for relief, hope, wisdom, and sustenance? "It works this way-if we love a human being and do not love God, we demand of him perfection, and when we do not get it we become cruel and vindictive; we are demanding of a human being that which he cannot give. As I mentioned before, no matter how much we...
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When you were dating, your mate possessed fascinating qualities that may have intrigued you and attracted you. But now, after living in the same house, fascination has turned to frustration; intriguing characteristics are now idiosyncrasies. If you and your spouse are so very different from each other, how do you maintain your energy for love? How do you energize, motivate and....
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In our fallen world, it is often deemed acceptable by some to tear people down verbally or to get back at them if we feel hurt. Peter, remembering Jesus' teaching to turn the other cheek (Matthew 5:39), encourages his readers to pay back wrongs with a blessing, such as praying for the offenders. In God's Kingdom, revenge is unacceptable behavior, as is insulting a ...
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If we remember that a covenant marriage is not give and take, we all will have a relationship like some of the people in the Bible had. Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as he loved himself. Ruth made a covenant with Naomi, she even told Naomi that her people would be her people. God had a covenant with Noah because Noah was a righteous man.....
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Covenant marriages require confronting and forgiving. Most couples, even Christians, have a contractual relationship. This is one of the reasons the divorce rate among Christians has ascended in the past decade. Must we therefore conclude that the biblical ideal of a covenant marriage is outdated, beyond the grasp of modern man, a dream that exists in man's memory but simply produces guilt...
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